How to choose a sex toy
Choosing the right adult toy might raise the following concerns:
- Afraid of buying the wrong one on my first try? Looking for advice from experienced users.
- Which to choose: DouDouNiao or Polly? They look so similar!
- he marketing hype is incredible, but is it really that good?
Today, we've compiled a super comprehensive guide to female toys, based on customer feedback and personal reviews, to guide you into the world of toys!
How to choose
- Choose a reliable brand and after-sales service.
- Use the vibrator outdoors, not indoors.
- New suction technology is highly recommended.
- Three stable vibration levels are available; variety is not necessary.
- Choose a flexible, firm vibrator.
- Try it yourself first, then test other toys; allow time for adjustment.
01Sunny World Classification
The scope of pleasure products is very broad.
From a user perspective: there are women's toys, men's toys, same-sex couples, long-distance couples, postpartum mothers, and those with specific preferences.
From a functional perspective: I personally summarize them into two main categories, one targeting specific areas and the other targeting the whole body.
Products targeting specific areas include: electric toys, masturbation sleeves, Kegel balls, anal products, lubricants, arousal products, delay sprays, etc.
Products targeting the whole body can be categorized based on bodily sensations: tactile (massage oils, genitals, feathers); visual (candles, underwear, handcuffs); gustatory (edible lubricants/massage gels); olfactory (fragrances)... This category overlaps; for example, underwear also provides tactile sensations, and low-temperature candles can provide light and also drip... The world of pleasure products is vast; today, I will only introduce women's toys.
02 Selection factors
- Most importantly, product quality and after-sales service.
There's a simple principle: choose reliable brands.
Toy names are often in the format of brand + nickname, for example, Kisstoy Polly, Meidong Flamingo, Svakom Iris, where the first part is the brand.
I think these brands have good quality: Svakom, Kisstoy, NetEase Spring Breeze, Meidong, iobanana...
As electronic products, there is a small probability that they might have issues, so after-sales service is also very important. You should look for brands with responsive and effective customer service.
- Does it conform to human science?
Original European and American products tend to be large, so beginners should avoid them. For example, Lelo and Fun Factory.
Small toys like bouncy balls are for external use only; claims of "amazing" internal use are nonsense.
- Visual and privacy
Toys on the market are getting increasingly attractive these days, with designs like lipsticks and animal figures, and they offer a high degree of privacy.
For those worried about being discovered by their parents or roommates, privacy is a top priority.
For example, these lipstick toys are particularly discreet:
- noise level
Most products operate between 50-70 decibels, with better ones below 50 decibels.
No product is completely silent; electrical appliances can't be completely silent. You can try covering yourself with a blanket to reduce noise.
Don't worry, the toy noise won't be heard by your neighbors, but it will definitely be heard within the same room.
In dormitories, it's suggested to play music or movies as a cover when others aren't around. For complete silence, stick to using your hands.
- Charging method and water resistance
I wouldn't recommend battery-operated toys. Rechargeable toys can be magnetic, plugged in, or charged inside the box. Plug-in toys are slightly less waterproof. Most toys have a usage time of 90-120 minutes. Charge them in advance for worry-free play. Products have different waterproof ratings; those who like to play in the bathroom should check the waterproof rating to see if it's shower-safe or bath-safe.
03 Outdoor play toys
Female external toys offer three stimulation methods: vibration, suction, and C-spot stimulation; some toys have two functions.
Someone asked if virgins can buy toys. Of course they can! A woman's most important point (vaginus) is on the outside.
- External vibration products
Small vibrating toys, also called "vibrating balls," are the most classic toys for girls.
Large massage vibrators are a no-go; they're too intense and can cause numbness, plus they don't look good. Vibrating balls are for external use; it's normal not to feel anything inside. The outside is more sensitive to vibration, while the inside is less sensitive. Too many men and women get this wrong from pornographic films!
How should beginners choose? Start with soft silicone products (plastic vibrates more strongly). For vibration modes, there are 3 stable intensity options; don't choose too many. Variation modes and music variations are not very useful.
- Sucking toys
Suction toys are a revolutionary invention of this century by the German brand Womanizer.
They don't actually suck inwards; instead, they spray air outwards at a high frequency, creating a sensation similar to sucking. Because the stimulation is more concentrated and deeper than vibration, it's more likely to cause ecstasy, so women are highly encouraged to try it.
With the surge in popularity of suction toys, simple vibrating toys have somewhat declined in popularity. Some people ask, are the products advertised these days really that perfect?
- C-dot pen
It uses a technology similar to that of a toothbrush, and it's a new type of toy invented abroad. Players say that this "first gear" is equivalent to the highest setting on a jumpsuit; you'll be kneeling right off the bat.
Beginners beware, this is too intense for you.
04 Internal development
Internal massagers come in two types: single-headed or double-headed.
Double-headed ones have one branch targeting the external clitoris.
Many women buy single-headed massagers and then don't feel anything. Remember! Internal stimulation is key! The clitoris is always the focus! Don't forget to use external toys.
Regardless of whether it's single-headed or double-headed, choose one that is curved and firm to allow for multi-directional stimulation.
Beginners should choose thinner products. 3.5cm is considered large and not very beginner-friendly. I suggest young women with no vulva start with 2cm, while experienced women can try 3cm. I personally highly recommend Svakom's Cici and Iris.
The modes should also have stable intensity options, preferably no more than 7, otherwise you'll have to turn it off to find your preferred mode. I've encountered one with over 30 vibration frequencies—it's ridiculous!
This is why I think CiCi/Iris is perfect: 5 vibration modes, each with 5 intensity levels, 25 options to meet all needs, and it's very durable and of good quality!
I haven't reviewed these product sets yet, so I can't give a recommendation. Judging by the shape, new users should choose thinner ones, while experienced users who prefer a fuller feel should choose larger ones.
Buying the suction cup and single-headed dildo separately is also a good option. For example, the Polly Generation 1 + Iris combination is one I've recommended to many women. Because often, women are just playing around on the outside, not necessarily wanting penetration. This way, they can vibrate and suck separately on the outside, and combine them if they want internal stimulation... there are many kinds of pleasure!
05 Player Guidelines
- Toys are not a lover's adversary, but a helper.
People worry that toys will make women reject men. How can an appliance compare to a person?
Toys only affect a specific area; they can't affect the whole body or the soul. Apricot is a holistic experience, involving the skin and all five senses. A lover who understands this can bring warm affection.
Both can be used together; a smart man uses appliances to relieve stress.
If you really want to compete with toys, a man can't win. It can't last two hours, nor can it emit any kind of "air pulse"...
- Accepting yourself brings joy
Before buying toys, it's best to learn how to DIY and embrace personal enjoyment. Once you're self-sufficient, toys are simply the icing on the cake.
If you've never DIYed and jump straight to products, the effort might be too much, and you might develop a psychological aversion.
Some girls want to use toys to try and reach their peak; that depends on fate. Many people have messaged me expressing their ecstatic breakthroughs, but success isn't guaranteed for everyone.
- Concerned about lowering the sensitivity threshold
Veteran users, including myself, reported that we were still quite sensitive. And because our bodies were fully developed, it significantly improved our sexual performance.
When you first start using it or use it frequently, you might experience numbness or dullness. In this case, it's good to rest and adjust, waiting for the desire to re-emerge. We also recommend resuming hand-based training.
- There is a break-in period when buying toys.
Buying toys requires trying them out several times. At first, you might feel uncomfortable or even scared because they seem too intense. After a few tries, determine if they're too strong or too weak. If you don't like them, buy a new one to try.
Some people have overly high expectations for toys, hoping for an exhilarating experience after only one or two uses. This is unpredictable and requires time.
- Cleaning and storage
Do not wipe silicone with alcohol. It is recommended to disinfect it with toy disinfectant spray, rinse with running water, wipe it dry and let it air dry, and then put it in the box or bag to prevent dust. Note that the small opening of the sucking toy is quite fragile, so do not puncture it, as this is considered human-caused damage and cannot be repaired through after-sales service.